Brainstorming settlement ideas is a crucial component of the collaborative process. Collaborative practice provides an open environment that encourages everyone on the team to participate. The participants should feel as though their thoughts are being heard and their interests validated. Collaborative professionals will encourage active listening in a casual environment. The brainstorming step follows …
“Your children deserve to know their mother, no matter who she is. For all you know, one of them will be the next Sigmund Freud, because of her. Don’t deny them that.” I went to the doctor today for my bursitis. My husband had researched stem cell therapy and recommended this facility, high on the …
Stress during divorce is inevitable. Divorce is one of the most stressful and emotional experiences that a person will ever endure. Psychologists advise people to refrain from important decision making when experiencing periods of high grief and stress, yet the divorce process forces people to make life-changing choices as quickly as possible, even when they’re …
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Another reason why collaborative divorce is a great idea. No surprises. When a jury or judge hears a case and will make a decision that might impact you for the rest of your life, the outcome is never predictable. You’ve all heard the old saw “It all depends on what the judge had for breakfast,” …
Family lawyers cause families more pain and cost them more money than any other cog in the traditional divorce process. Most do not do it on purpose (although some do), but that they do it is undeniable. I’ve practiced law for 35 years. I’ve made a spectacular living as the consummate trial attorney, and I …
What do you do if your new client has just been served and he’s read up on his choices in the divorce process, so he knows that he wants to avoid the destruction of divorce court, that he wants to try to resolve his divorce issues using the constructive collaborative process? Or what if he …
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In my book, War or Peace, I tell the stories of what happened in court on my watch. Here is what happens when you ask a judge, who doesn’t know you or your kids, or share your values, to make decisions that will impact you for the rest of your lives. John Hammond was nineteen when …
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Did my headline catch your eye? I have actually had a client describe his divorce in those exact words. Of course, it was a collaborative divorce; I’m certain that’s no surprise to anyone reading this blog. But the question you should ask is “how did you find out that he was describing his divorce in …
