Stress during divorce is inevitable. Divorce is one of the most stressful and emotional experiences that a person will ever endure. Psychologists advise people to refrain from important decision making when experiencing periods of high grief and stress, yet the divorce process forces people to make life-changing choices as quickly as possible, even when they’re …
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As a divorce attorney for 36 years, I can assure you that not many of us are able to keep the details behind our divorce confidential, protecting our personal lives. Johnny Depp may be one, but, if so, it’s only because of the special status his high profile Hollywood identity may afford him. Not everyone is always …
On June 29, 2016, Mickey Russell went to his wife’s office at Colorado Association for Recycling and shot her dead, and then turned the gun on himself. Cara Russell was the former mayor of Buena Vista, Colorado and a much-loved figure in the Upper Arkansas River Valley. She had recently filed for divorce, beginning her new career at …
This article is written by a guest author who would like to remain anonymous Have you heard the latest news regarding Khloe Kardashian and her concerns about divorcing her husband, Lamar Odom? Normally, I would skim over this type of entertainment news, but what caught my eye was the headline “. . . reality star …
In Get Educated, Part One, we discussed how to verify someone’s experience. We also explained that you should find out what your loan options are before your divorce is final, because the terms set out in your final judgment of divorce can either foster your goal, or prevent it. And your lawyer is unlikely to know …
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Another reason why collaborative divorce is a great idea. No surprises. When a jury or judge hears a case and will make a decision that might impact you for the rest of your life, the outcome is never predictable. You’ve all heard the old saw “It all depends on what the judge had for breakfast,” …
When I was a trial lawyer, just starting out doing divorce work, my first question to the potential new client, as I grasped his outstretched hand warmly in both of mine, was, “How are you? What’s going on in your life that’s brought you here?” Thus, they knew that I was warm and caring. Clients …
If the client’s spouse is not represented by counsel, send a letter to him or her. In it, explain that the client has requested your help in obtaining a divorce and that your client is interested in proceeding by using the collaborative process, and provide the contact information of several collaboratively-trained attorneys. Provide him with …
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There are all kinds of guidelines for recovering emotionally from the dissolution of your marriage. But what about your finances? What steps should you take to safeguard your credit, establish new credit, protect your dependents, etc.? I can tell you horror stories about the errors people have made (or rather the remedial actions they have …
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The collaborative team guides its clients to work together to solve their problems. To attack problems efficiently, they follow these steps: Step 1: Establish the ground rules. They are: ☞Be polite, patient, and honest. ☞Listen actively without interrupting the speaker. ☞Focus on the future and avoid unnecessary discussions of the past. ☞Focus on resolving conflict …
