Collaborative Roadmap or Settlement Offer? The leader of a collaborative practice group wrote to me the other day, complaining that her membership suffered from a pervasive and insidious problem. She asked for my advice. When she elaborated, she explained that the lawyers in her group have difficulty making “the paradigm shift”: These guys approach the …
“Your children deserve to know their mother, no matter who she is. For all you know, one of them will be the next Sigmund Freud, because of her. Don’t deny them that.” I went to the doctor today for my bursitis. My husband had researched stem cell therapy and recommended this facility, high on the …
Illinois Shows Us How to Market Our Collaborative Practices. For years, I’ve preached that practitioners should work hard to ensure that all of their first responders are aware of the benefits of the collaborative divorce process. Now, the State of Illinois has recognized who some of those leading first responders are, and has taken steps …
Hairstylists, Cosmetologists, and Collaborative Law Read More »
Personalities impact results. I always tell people interested in what I do for a living that one of the many reasons my clients choose the collaborative process is because they don’t want some judge who doesn’t know either of them, or their kids, or share their values to make the decisions that will impact their …
Don’t commit one of the cardinal sins of divorce; it’s never a good idea to lie in order to come out on top in the end. Telling the cops that your spouse hit you is not the right way to announce that you want a divorce or to get him or her out of the …
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WHY POSTING ON SOCIAL MEDIA IS A BAD IDEA DURING DIVORCE It’s very tempting to brag about your new life on social media before you’re even divorced to ensure that your ex knows that you’re over him or her. Don’t post anything that might be used against you! Details about the keg you finished all by yourself, comments …
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Collaborative divorce is not just for the wealthy. The famous and the wealthy use it, it’s true, because they are clued in to the value offered by the collaborative process. That is to say, a collaborative divorce typically saves its participants money. Keep in mind that professional fees differ according to venue; a lawyer in New …
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MISTAKE #3 – TALKING TRASH You may feel you must vent about your issues with the ex. Sometimes talking trash may just slip. If it does, beware “the natural and logical consequences.” NEVER trash your ex to your kids. It will hurt you in family court, if you insist on going there. And it will certainly …
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Some divorce lawyers encourage their clients to empty out the joint bank accounts, “before your spouse does it.” This is a declaration of war, equivalent to pushing the red button. In many jurisdictions, when one person petitions for divorce, the judge enters a standing temporary order, instructing the clients not to dissipate marital assets, not …
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There are various ways to get a divorce that don’t require contested litigation. The most common mistake spouses make during divorce is assuming they must litigate. You may choose to handle your divorce yourself, without hiring attorneys. If you haven’t been married long, do not have children, and have only a few assets and liabilities, negotiating an …
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