Exploring Best, Worst, and Most Likely Outcomes When helping clients to reach a fair and equitable (and acceptable) resolution of their divorces, sometimes it is important for them to understand their best, worst, and most likely outcomes in court. This way they can make informed decisions regarding their divorce. BATNA is the Best Alternative to a …
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“Your children deserve to know their mother, no matter who she is. For all you know, one of them will be the next Sigmund Freud, because of her. Don’t deny them that.” I went to the doctor today for my bursitis. My husband had researched stem cell therapy and recommended this facility, high on the …
Personalities impact results. I always tell people interested in what I do for a living that one of the many reasons my clients choose the collaborative process is because they don’t want some judge who doesn’t know either of them, or their kids, or share their values to make the decisions that will impact their …
Another reason why collaborative divorce is a great idea. No surprises. When a jury or judge hears a case and will make a decision that might impact you for the rest of your life, the outcome is never predictable. You’ve all heard the old saw “It all depends on what the judge had for breakfast,” …
What do you do if your new client has just been served and he’s read up on his choices in the divorce process, so he knows that he wants to avoid the destruction of divorce court, that he wants to try to resolve his divorce issues using the constructive collaborative process? Or what if he …
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In my book, War or Peace, I tell the stories of what happened in court on my watch. Here is what happens when you ask a judge, who doesn’t know you or your kids, or share your values, to make decisions that will impact you for the rest of your lives. John Hammond was nineteen when …
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Did my headline catch your eye? “The Worst Way to End a Marriage” I lecture often about the horrors of traditional courtroom divorce and compare its negative effects to the positive aspects of cooperative and collaborative divorce. I always tell the story of how my parents were divorced when I was seven years old. “My mother …
I attended a luncheon recently with a speaker who discussed what exactly constitutes a “collaborative divorce.” I hadn’t realized that the question was open to debate! Did he agree that one could perform a collaborative divorce with just two attorneys, one for each party,so long as the participation agreement specified that the lawyers were out …
“Statistics show that, in the U.S., 50% percent of first marriages, 67% of second, and 73% of third marriages end in divorce.” This is the old saw, but are these alarming numbers really accurate? All argument aside, there is no question that divorce is rampant in today’s society. What many people don’t appreciate, at least until they are …
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