Movies, as well as books, have a way of making ordinary moments seem relatable. Remember on The Breakup, when Jennifer Aniston and Vince Vaughn had that blowup argument that ended their relationship?
Think about the last time you were angry with your spouse. Were you mad because you’re always the one who’s cleaning up after everyone in your family? Did you get upset because your mate lets your kids do whatever they want to do, so you always end up being the bad guy? Did he or she make a vexing comment about your mother?
At a recent speech at Stanford University, Supreme Court Justice, Ruth Bader Ginsburg, mentioned advice given to her by her mother in law on her wedding day: “In every good marriage, it helps sometimes to be a little deaf.” Sage words, akin to the old adage of learning to pick your battles. But while it’s wise to do so during minor issues, there are other times when you need to have an honest conversation with your spouse. After all, breakdowns in communications are among the main reasons couples divorce.
To save a marriage, it’s important to look for ways to deescalate reparable issues, before you reach a point of no return. Although you may feel isolated and misunderstood, looking for people who’ve been in your shoes might give you hope and spark a few ideas. You can also look for ways you can do your part in the mending process.
If you have done everything you can, and are still convinced that divorce is the only solution, the best course of action would be to attempt to do so in the most amicable way possible. Through a collaborative divorce, you can enlist various professionals to guide you through the process, while keeping your and your spouse’s best interests as a priority, without having to go through an ugly court battle.
There is no need to see your relationship with someone who was once the most important person in your life deteriorate to the point of being unable to ever look at each other again. It feels a lot better to take the high road, even on your way out the door.
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About this week’s authors: Joryn Jenkins.
Joryn, attorney and Open Palm Founder, began her own firm here in Tampa after a 14-year career in law, 2 of which she served as professor in law at Stetson University. She is a recipient of the prestigious A. Sherman Christensen award, an honor bestowed upon those who have provided exceptional leadership to The American Inns of Court Movement. For more information on Joryn’s professional experience, take a look at her resume.