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Collaborative Life Planning

In the midst of pandemic lockdown, it feels as if the world is ending, and yet, the most stressful part of my life is scrolling through my Instagram feed. It seems as if a new celebrity break-up is announced every day. These are people I care about!

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Death and Divorce

I’m one of those people who believes in loving my job, and I do, immensely. In fact, I’m not ashamed to say that it’s how I define myself. But that definition comes with consequences, when you’re not willing to let it go . . . and I wasn’t.

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Hell Hath No Fury…

I filed a petition for personal bankruptcy for the Chief Executive Officer of a publicly traded corporation who personally grossed a salary of $30,000 per month. “Wait! What?” you exclaim.

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Magic II

Sharing a secret happens more often than you would think in the collaborative divorce process, in which we have two folks parting ways. Perhaps they’re parting ways because one of them withheld a secret and now wants to unburden himself.

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Magic I

Magic! It permeates my life. It’s why the collaborative divorce process has affected me so deeply. I talk a lot about the fact that my parents were divorced when I was seven and about how my mother loaded us kids into the van and moved us 3000 miles across the country.

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The Break-Up Loop

I am an Enneagram Three (“The Achiever”) with a four-wing (“The Professional”). From a psychological perspective, this means that I thrive when people give me specific feedback.

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The Celebration

I was reading a novel (about a magician) the other day and happened upon an incident in which the hero mentions that he doesn’t really believe in ostentatious ceremonies. His mentor, in celebrating his protégé’s achievement of the rank of magician, responds.

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Fund Your Freedom Divorce

Funding Your Freedom

How’s this for a concept? New Chapter Capital offers “divorce financing assistance.” This company provides funds to people caught up in divorce proceedings across the nation.

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Fear of Speaking

When I was just fifteen, my stepfather notified us that he had been transferred and we would be moving, again. Instead of spending my senior year in yet another new high school .

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