When Gwyneth Paltrow talked about her “conscious uncoupling” from Coldplay’s front man, Chris Martin, there was a nationwide collective eye roll. However, the end of her marriage never became tabloid fodder, such as what happened with other contentious, high-profile celebrity divorces. Even while going through one of the most difficult times of her life, she remained as dignified as she always has.
If you got married for the right reasons, your wedding was one of the most fun, happiest days of your life. At some point, your spouse was the center of your universe, and you were looking forward to creating a life with that person. This is why making the decision to get a divorce can be gut-wrenching.
Everyone’s reality with dissolution of marriage is different: There are people who experience severe depression as they go through the process. Others might throw a party to celebrate their freedom.
A Collaborative Divorce Will Help You Keep the Peace
No matter what your story, the best route is always the one that causes the least amount of damage. Keep your dignity. Let your children see that there is still a good relationship between their parents. Don’t drain your entire life savings to send your attorney’s kids to college. Instead of seeing it as the breaking apart of your family unit, you can look at it as a transition from one set of dynamics to another: life as amicable co-parents. Even if you don’t have children together, a peaceful process will make concluding this chapter in your life relatively easier.
When faced with deciding between war or peace, what seems like the most logical choice?
You don’t have to be a millionaire in order to model a similar approach to your dissolution of marriage. A collaborative divorce is equally accessible to regular people whose priority is to make this process as painless as possible. You and your spouse can work with a team of attorneys, mental health professionals, parenting coordinators, and financial advisors, to help you reach a mutually beneficial agreement, safeguarding as best as possible your specific interests and those of your children. Hope gives us something to look forward to, and you can find it even in adversity.
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About this week’s authors: Joryn Jenkins.
Joryn, attorney and Open Palm Founder, began her own firm here in Tampa after a 14-year career in law, 2 of which she served as professor in law at Stetson University. She is a recipient of the prestigious A. Sherman Christensen award, an honor bestowed upon those who have provided exceptional leadership to The American Inns of Court Movement. For more information on Joryn’s professional experience, take a look at her resume.