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War or Peace For Your Divorce? Choose to Collaborate!

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Would you wish a world in the midst of war, countries constantly battling, threatening to bomb each other, their citizens being physically and emotionally brutalized, if not killed, their children being torn from their homes, their families, and friends, suffering even more? Or would you choose a peaceful world in which folks may not agree,…

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Kids Don’t Choose to Divorce; Divorce Collaboratively

Little girls dream of the day when they will marry their princes. They play make-believe games, dressing like brides, holding silk flowers, and slowly marching down the aisle. They dream of what it will be like to be a mother, treating their dolls like their babies, feeding them, and even changing their diapers. They don’t…

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Collaborate For Your Children’s Sake

Collaborate For Your Children's Sake

Children should never be placed in the middle of their parents’ problems. Doing so can have a devastating psychological impact on them. Children who are forced to take sides against one of their parents exhibit more behavioral problems and experience higher rates of depression and substance abuse. Your children didn’t choose your marriage or your…

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Bad Marriage; Good Divorce

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A divorce doesn’t necessarily mean that you and your significant other become enemies. After all, you once loved this person enough to marry him or to have a child with him. Can’t you at least end your romance as friends? The answer may depend on the process that you choose to sever the threads of…

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The Paradigm Shift

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Families don’t belong in the courtroom! How can it be that one buys a license to create a family but must sue one’s spouse to restructure one? Because the collaborative process requires attorneys to focus on the interests and goals of their clients,  rather than on their positions, attorneys must make a paradigm shift from…

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Note Taking – First Collaborative Divorce Team Meeting (MD)

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I was recently invited to be part of a collaborative divorce team as the notetaker. Here’s what I learned: I have become familiar with the collaborative divorce process over the last few months, discussing how the process unfolds with clients and our lawyers and working with clients as we prepared them for their meetings, but…

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What’s the Opposite of Happiness?

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I read recently that the opposite of love is not hate; it’s indifference. So, what is the opposite of happiness? I asked this question because, in all of our collaborative divorces, we strive to enable our clients to set goals, those targets that they believe will lead to their future happiness, if not immediately, then…

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Who Should You Include on Your Divorce Team?

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In life, surrounding yourself with the right people can mean the difference between happiness and sadness, success and failure. It is no different when you experience a divorce. Should you surround yourself with Negative Nellies who only see the bad in everything that happens? Or with Positive Pollys, realistic folks who keep you grounded and…

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The Stepparent: What level of involvement in parenting is appropriate?

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What role does a stepparent have in parenting? Integrating a stepparent into an already established family structure can be a sensitive, and potentially stressful, situation. What do you do when a conflict arises between parent and stepparent, or between stepparent and child? I’m here to assure you that there is no one-answer-fits-all, only what works…

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The Five Worst Mistakes Made by New Divorce Practitioners

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There’s a lot more to becoming a successful divorce lawyer than it may seem. As I’ve grown my own practice and trained divorce lawyers around the country to grow theirs, I’ve discovered that there are a few consistent mistakes that all new divorce lawyers make that prevent them from finding the success that they want.…

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