Divorce Advice

The 7 Biggest Divorce Mistakes: #2 Emptying The Joint Bank Accounts

Some divorce lawyers encourage their clients to empty out the joint bank accounts, “before your spouse does it.” This is a declaration of war, equivalent to pushing the red button. In many jurisdictions, when one person petitions for divorce, the judge enters a standing temporary order, instructing the clients not to dissipate marital assets, not …

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The Race To The Courthouse

Why am I so excited about collaborative divorce? Because it’s a positive thing, a change for the better! Today, when you consult the average attorney about a divorce, the lawyer’s first thought is to get his petition to dissolve the marriage filed before the other spouse does. It’s always a race to the courthouse, because …

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The Most Important Thing to Know about Divorce Court

In my book, War or Peace, I tell the stories of what happened in court on my watch. Here is what happens when you ask a judge, who doesn’t know you or your kids, or share your values, to make decisions that will impact you for the rest of your lives. John Hammond was nineteen when …

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The Worst Way to End a Marriage

Did my headline catch your eye? “The Worst Way to End a Marriage” I lecture often about the horrors of traditional courtroom divorce and compare its negative effects to the positive aspects of cooperative and collaborative divorce. I always tell the story of how my parents were divorced when I was seven years old. “My mother …

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4 Reasons and $8.2 million to Choose Collaborative Divorce

High profile divorces don’t have to be. “Kforce leader David Dunkel gives $8.2M in stock to ex-wife in divorce settlement” is splashed across the headlines of The Tampa Bay Business Journal.  The article describes in specific detail the number and value of the shares involved in the divorce judgment, and that it’s pending appeal.  But …

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Ending a Marriage in the Strangest Way Possible

Our clients do the oddest things while they struggle in the grip of the emotional tempest created by divorce. When they choose the traditional divorce option, going to court, there is no professional involved in the process to help address this intense stress, and the sometimes consequent inability to make decisions rationally. Last week, I …

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What to Do Before Consulting a Divorce Attorney?

The decision to hire a divorce attorney is a stressful one. Once you do, the process may quickly unfold before you have time to adequately prepare. Therefore, before hiring an attorney, consider some divorce advice 26 STEPS TO PREPARE YOU FOR DIVORCE 1. Emotionally prepare yourself. Be certain that divorce is really what you want; …

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