Collaborative Divorce

Is Collaborative Ever Appropriate When a Client Has Borderline Personality Disorder?

Is Collaborative Ever Appropriate When a Client Has Borderline Personality Disorder? Colette didn’t trust anyone. She needed to be in control. She feared abandonment. She suffered intense mood swings. She was impulsive. She displayed inappropriate anger. She could not view things realistically. Colette had a child with Tom, although they weren’t married. The second time …

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Embrace Change

Collaborative divorce offers families the opportunity to work with a team of professionals to negotiate a resolution that meets the highest goals and interests of the entire family.   The only constant in life is that there will always be change. Good times will transform into not-so-good times. Bad times will get better. Life is …

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The Collaborative Process: Initial Conversations Between Co-Collaborative Counsel and Choosing Neutrals

As soon as both clients have chosen their collaborative process attorneys, if you have not yet, reach out to your co-collaborative counsel (that would be “opposing counsel” in a litigated case) and introduce yourself.   You should begin discussing who might be appropriate team members in light of the issues involved in the divorce at …

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Respectful Dialogue A Contagious Core Value of the Collaborative Divorce Process

Disrespectfulness is not tolerated in the collaborative divorce process.   We can probably all sadly agree that our society is devolving into a culture of disrespect. Rather than learning to respect others, because of what the media and our political leaders demonstrate for them on a daily basis, our children learn to disrespect them. Our …

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Asking Divorce Questions: Is Collaboration Right For You?

Ask Yourself These Questions Before Choosing Collaboration For Your Divorce Process.   Divorce is stressful. Before you even begin your divorce, you must choose how you want to get divorced. Litigation, mediation, cooperation, collaboration . . . there are numerous options. So, is collaboration the right process for you? Answer the following questions to determine …

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Words Matter

    “Words matter. They’re contagious. And hopeful words infect people.” -Angela Maiers   My girlfriend asks me what brand of eyeliner I use. I can’t remember that kind of stuff so I tell her it’s purple and I think it’s oil-based because you smear it with a brush after you stroke it on. She asks …

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Brainstorming

Brainstorming settlement ideas is a crucial component of the collaborative process.   Collaborative practice provides an open environment that encourages everyone on the team to participate. The participants should feel as though their thoughts are being heard and their interests validated. Collaborative professionals will encourage active listening in a casual environment. The brainstorming step follows …

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