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Getting Your Day in Court

For years, I had a horrible job.  I was a great family law trial attorney. Traditional divorce in the courtroom is horrifying.  For years, we trial attorneys have been doing it all wrong: going to court to dissolve marriages… taking our most personal, private relationships in front of a third party (the judge) who: 1…

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The Best & Hardest Question

I was 10 years old in 1967, buy and, find courtesy of my grandfather, I owned five shares of Technical Tape Incorporated. All five of us, my younger sisters and my 31-year-old mother, were living with my grandparents back then, in New Rochelle, New York. This was maybe an hour outside of New York City.…

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Guilty

I was what we call “a baby lawyer” when I tried my first case in front of a jury. At twenty-six, I worked as an assistant state attorney, a prosecutor.  I had moved up through the Intake Division into Traffic. The judge for my case was a stern-looking middle-aged white guy who rarely smiled. His…

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Sending Signals

The wife getting ready to leave her husband, viagra sale just like the husband readying to leave his wife, sends signals, sometimes long before her husband or his wife knows that a divorce is in the offing.  What signals, you ask?  How do I know that one of them is preparing to ask for a…

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Marital Surgeon

I am a divorce lawyer.  For years, I was a very successful, family law trial lawyer.  So when people ask what I do, I tell them, “I make unhappy people happy; I get them divorced so that they can have another shot at happiness.” I think we can all agree that it’s terrible for everyone…

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Applying Givers Gain

Last Saturday, stuff my husband and I were headed out to view a house that had just been listed for sale that my realtor had finally found for us, after many months of looking.  I had somehow forgotten the appointment, but Todd had not and so, when he reminded me, I quickly showered, jumped into…

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Black & White

The judicial system is administered by human beings; human beings work in it and on it, and it is therefore permeated with human error and other less admirable human traits. If you imagine that it is fair and impartial and just, and that you can always get the right result if you go to court, then…

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Be Specific When You Request Referrals

Years ago, I ran an errand, retrieving some newly framed art from the gallery where I always arranged to have my artwork framed.  While waiting for the owner to find my giclée in the back, I fell in love with an original painting he had on display and offered for sale.  In it, the artist had…

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Toxic Outsiders

It is common in traditional divorce cases that someone close to a spouse, hospital a parent, a friend, a new romantic interest, or some other person whom that spouse trusts, influences the case’s outcome. Some people are incapable of making critical decisions during this stressful process without input from their loved ones and other advocates.…

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Divorce Bashes

Women and men alike often bid farewell to their single status during wild celebrations with their best friends. Whether it’s a raucous trip to Vegas or a relaxed spa weekend, many engaged people celebrate one last weekend of singlehood by means of bachelorette and bachelor parties. After all, it’s their last chance to be wicked,…

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