first right of refusal

Navigating the First Right of Refusal

One of the hardest concepts for me to grasp during my divorce was the first right of refusal, also sometimes called the right of first refusal. This is the rule that the timesharing parent, if called away from the kids for a specified period of time, must offer the other parent the opportunity to spend…

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Why Are We So Stressed? Floridian’s Stress Levels Rank High.

  Floridians’ Stress Levels Rank High Among U.S. States   According to a recent study by WalletHub, Florida is the 11th most stressed state in the country. But there’s more to this story. In determining stress levels, researchers analyzed the following criteria: average hours of work per week, the percentage of adults getting adequate sleep,…

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No Kids, Thanks

I’ve never wanted children, as far back as I can recall. As a kid, I did play with names for “my twins,” like Dennis and Denise, Michael and Michaela, and Joseph and Josephine. And I played with dolls, but never as though they were my children, rather as though they were me and my sisters,…

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Don’t Divorce Like Your Parents Did

When a judge makes the decisions about your family and finances, everyone loses. My parents divorced during a time when the courts granted mothers “custody,” as it was called then, and fathers were permitted to “visit” with their children every other weekend. There was even a term for treating mothers in such a preferential manner;…

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Pet Custody

But Who Gets Fido? According to Louis Sabin, “No matter how little money and how few possessions you own, having a dog makes you rich.” As more and more people adopt this thinking, state laws begin to catch up with the rest of us. Pet Custody The 2017-2018 edition of the Pet Ownership and Demographics Sourcebook,…

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Just Because Your Marriage Doesn’t Work Doesn’t Mean Your Family Can’t

Just Because Your Marriage Doesn’t Work Doesn’t Mean Your Family Can’t Restructure Your Family, Don’t Destroy It Sadly, over 50% of all marriages end in divorce. But just because your romantic relationship has ended doesn’t mean that your family is doomed. Consider your divorce as a restructuring of your family, and not as its destruction.…

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Social Media Prenup

Social Media Prenup Social Media Clauses in Prenuptial Agreements I had an interesting consultation this morning. I thought that we were just meeting to discuss my preparation of a fairly standard prenuptial agreement. However, the young woman asked that we include a “social media clause” in her prenup. While I have read several articles recently…

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War or Peace For Your Divorce? Choose to Collaborate!

War or Peace For Your Divorce? Choose to Collaborate! Would you wish a world in the midst of war, countries constantly battling, threatening to bomb each other, their citizens being physically and emotionally brutalized, if not killed, their children being torn from their homes, their families, and friends, suffering even more? Or would you choose…

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Kids Don’t Choose to Divorce; Divorce Collaboratively

Kids Don’t Choose to Divorce; Divorce Collaboratively Little girls dream of the day when they will marry their princes. They play make-believe games, dressing like brides, holding silk flowers, and slowly marching down the aisle. They dream of what it will be like to be a mother, treating their dolls like their babies, feeding them,…

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Marriages End; Co-Parenting Doesn’t

Marriages End; Co-Parenting Doesn’t Your Children Deserve A Positive Co-Parenting Relationship Unfortunately, not every marriage is meant to last “until death do us part.” But even if your marriage isn’t stamped “No Expiration Date,” if you were lucky enough for it to result in children, then you should come out of your marriage with some…

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Divorce is Never Free, But It Can Be Reasonable

Even in the easiest divorce, there are expenses. Splitting one household into two always results in higher expenses for each person. Even if the couple comes to an agreement on their own, there are court filing fees and other unavoidable costs. The simplest divorce is actually more expensive than the simplest marriage! And most divorces…

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Our Family Wizard

As a promoter of positive co-parenting relationships, I strongly believe that even if you did not succeed as a married couple, you can still co-parent effectively post-divorce. Sometimes, that takes different tools for different people. Much to my dismay, my ex-husband and I have some tension in co-parenting. We simply do not communicate well and…

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