Archive for April 2016

Co-Parenting… With Your Ex?

I recently received a call from someone I originally met on HARO (Help a Reporter Out). Her editor had assigned her the task of answering a series of questions about “co-parenting after the romance is over.”   What are the most common reasons that adults with children are getting divorced these days, or separating, if…

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Setting The Table

When I was a trial lawyer, just starting out doing divorce work, my first question to the potential new client, as I grasped his outstretched hand warmly in both of mine, was, “How are you? What’s going on in your life that’s brought you here?” Thus, they knew that I was warm and caring. Clients…

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What To Do If Your Client’s Spouse Is Not Yet Collaborative

If the client’s spouse is not represented by counsel, send a letter to him or her. In it, explain that the client has requested your help in obtaining a divorce and that your client is interested in proceeding by using the collaborative process, and provide the contact information of several collaboratively-trained attorneys. Provide him with…

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Closing The Chapter: 13 Tips for Financial Security Post Divorce

There are all kinds of guidelines for recovering emotionally from the dissolution of your marriage. But what about your finances? What steps should you take to safeguard your credit, establish new credit, protect your dependents, etc.? I can tell you horror stories about the errors people have made (or rather the remedial actions they have…

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The Collaborative Problem Solving Road Map

The collaborative team guides its clients to work together to solve their problems. To attack problems efficiently, they follow these steps: Step 1: Establish the ground rules. They are: ☞Be polite, patient, and honest. ☞Listen actively without interrupting the speaker. ☞Focus on the future and avoid unnecessary discussions of the past. ☞Focus on resolving conflict…

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The Facilitator’s 1st Interview

  In order to begin equipping clients to work within the collaborative process and to equip the team with the details of the clients’ personality styles, it is considered best practice for the Mental Health Professional (MHP) to meet with the clients individually. When scheduling these interviews, allow at least 1.5 hours each; always contact…

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