Early in my career, as a young and single divorce attorney, my clients often commented “I’ll bet you never want to get married.” My response was always the same, “No, I never want to get divorced.” And what I meant was that I would be sure to choose my spouse extra carefully because I knew …
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It’s a funny thing about collaborative cases; we trial lawyers are so accustomed to our secret language that it turns out collaborative practice is not just about making the paradigm shift in our attitudes, but it’s also about making that adjustment in the very language we use when we discuss our cases. Our special shorthand, …
Many collaborative lawyers have informed me that they would never consider attempting the collaborative process if they are aware that there have been domestic violence incidents between the two spouses in question. That attitude strikes me as being close-minded. I can argue that most relationships punctuated by any domestic violence at all can be dissolved …
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When I was a trial lawyer, just starting out doing divorce work, my first question to the potential new client, as I grasped his outstretched hand warmly in both of mine, was, “How are you? What’s going on in your life that’s brought you here?” Thus, they knew that I was warm and caring. Clients …
A divorce realtor and a collaborative divorce lawyer sit down to lunch one day. The attorney is interested in partnering with the realtor when her clients decide to sell the marital home as part of their divorce process. So she wants to know more about the realtor himself, as well as his approach to the …
What It Takes to be a Realtor Who Specializes in Divorce A house is the physical embodiment of the hopes and dreams of a couple, and of their family… the American Dream. That’s why we call it a “home,” once they’ve moved in and it has made that transition. When the couple later divorces and …
If your New Year’s Resolution was to get a divorce, do it peacefully; Collaborate! Divorce filings are historically low for the month of December due to parties not wanting to disrupt this time of year for their children. You felt the same way; you kept the peace through the holidays but now it is time …
Peace is possible when you choose collaborative divorce. The holidays; this is a wonderful time of the year, is it not? Because you, and your spouse, chose the collaborative divorce process to work through the windup of your marriage, you can enjoy the holidays with your children, with your restructured family, and your friends. All …
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I am a divorce lawyer. For years, I was a very successful, family law trial lawyer. So when people ask what I do, I tell them, “I make unhappy people happy; I get them divorced so that they can have another shot at happiness.” I think we can all agree that it’s terrible for everyone …
