I’ve never wanted children, as far back as I can recall. As a kid, I did play with names for “my twins,” like Dennis and Denise, Michael and Michaela, and Joseph and Josephine. And I played with dolls, but never as though they were my children, rather as though they were me and my sisters, …
As a promoter of positive co-parenting relationships, I strongly believe that even if you did not succeed as a married couple, you can still co-parent effectively post-divorce. Sometimes, that takes different tools for different people. Much to my dismay, my ex-husband and I have some tension in co-parenting. We simply do not communicate well and …
Children should never be placed in the middle of their parents’ problems. Doing so can have a devastating psychological impact on them. Children who are forced to take sides against one of their parents exhibit more behavioral problems and experience higher rates of depression and substance abuse. Your children didn’t choose your marriage or your …
What role does a stepparent have in parenting? Integrating a stepparent into an already established family structure can be a sensitive, and potentially stressful, situation. What do you do when a conflict arises between parent and stepparent, or between stepparent and child? I’m here to assure you that there is no one-answer-fits-all, only what …
The Stepparent: What level of involvement in parenting is appropriate? Read More »
Ask Yourself These Questions Before Choosing Collaboration For Your Divorce Process. Divorce is stressful. Before you even begin your divorce, you must choose how you want to get divorced. Litigation, mediation, cooperation, collaboration . . . there are numerous options. So, is collaboration the right process for you? Answer the following questions to determine …
Asking Divorce Questions: Is Collaboration Right For You? Read More »
As I entered the world of dating, I became worried about how I would involve my children in the idea of dating. Everything seemed very cut and dried. You either wait to introduce your children to your boyfriend or you don’t. My initial thoughts were that you should wait and that, if you don’t, well, …
Dating With Kids: When Should I Introduce My New Partner To My Children? Read More »
For moms like me, the idea of 50/50 custody was too far from the norm. But there are many positives if you’re open to seeing them. Many women stay in relationships long past their expiration dates. Of course, you can always see it in someone else’s relationship. In your own relationship, well, hindsight is …
Do you remember the movie about Joan Crawford’s life, Mommy Dearest? This is what uncontrolled anger does to people. For those of us looking in, we can see the damage it causes; but for the person experiencing it, it creates a blind rage that prevents them from seeing the bigger picture. Think about a time …
How Will The Divorce Process Affect Your Children? Read More »
“Your children deserve to know their mother, no matter who she is. For all you know, one of them will be the next Sigmund Freud, because of her. Don’t deny them that.” I went to the doctor today for my bursitis. My husband had researched stem cell therapy and recommended this facility, high on the …
When you share your child with an ex-spouse, your final judgment of dissolution of marriage is only the beginning of a new chapter in your relationship. Whether you entered into a parenting plan voluntarily or as a result of litigation, you must figure out how to make co-parenting work in the most efficient way, for …
