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Goals and Interests

When the collaborative team members meet with the clients for the first time, the neutral facilitator begins by asking the participants to describe their goals, what they would like to accomplish in their divorce. Then she explains and emphasizes the importance of understanding the difference between a position and a goal or an interest. An example of a position is, “I want the house,” while the actual goals or interests are, “I want the kids to be near their friends; I want them in the best school system; I need a house that has room for my office in it.”